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For some women it does and for some it doesn't. Some find intercourse painful, frustrating, or boring. If you feel this way, you’re not alone. When a young woman first starts having intercourse, it’s not always what she expects. This web page provides information and tips to help you learn how to make sexual intercourse more enjoyable.
When a couple is kissing and touching, if the woman is excited, her vagina gets wet and slippery. The woman's vagina has to be wet for the man's penis to slide in easily. Otherwise, intercourse could be uncomfortable for both of them. When a woman feels nervous, guilty or afraid, her vagina might not lubricate or her vagina might tighten up. This can make intercourse difficult or even impossible.
Maybe you're not enjoying sex because you’re worried about:
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The largest organ in the human body is the skin! Touching all over can feel wonderful. It can be pleasurable to touch and to be touched. The lips and tongue are very sensitive. Using the mouth all over the body can be sensual and exciting and make sex feel more enjoyable.
The clitoris has an important role in orgasm and is the most sensitive part of a woman’s genitals. It is the small bump at the top of the vulva. Some women have orgasm more easily and enjoy intercourse more when the clitoris is touched before or while the penis is inside the vagina. . Many women like gentle stroking on the clitoris or around it, but others prefer more pressure.
And of course, a woman can learn to come to orgasm by herself through masturbation (self pleasuring). Then, she may be able to tell her partner what feels good. Fantasizing can also help a woman come to orgasm. Many women enjoy the closeness of intercourse without having orgasm. Many women enjoy other ways of lovemaking other than intercourse or penetration.
Other ways to make sex more enjoyable:
But sex is more than just intercourse!!
Sex is a way of saying something to another person. When you talk to someone, you often speak by moving more than just your lips. You speak with your eyes, your laugh, your hands... your whole body.
Making love with another person can be like that; using your whole body to explore your partner's. Enjoying lovemaking also means taking the time to communicate – saying how you feel, what you want (and don't want) and what feels good. When you and your partner learn to talk about and enjoy each other's whole bodies, not just your genitals, you will both be better lovers.
Public health nurses at the Sexual Health Clinics can talk to you about making sex more enjoyable. They are used to hearing all types of questions. Speak to us if you have questions or concerns. It’s confidential.
You might want to read the books listed here. They are available in bookstores or through your public library. If the library doesn't have a copy, the librarian may borrow a copy for you to read.
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Halton Region is composed of
the City of Burlington,
the Town of Halton Hills,
the Town of Milton,
and the Town of Oakville .