Sex - Frequently Asked Questions

I cum as soon as my partner touches me. What can I do?

  • Premature ejaculationis a common concern expressed by men. It is described as a rapid ejaculation of semen over which a man feels he lacks reasonable control.
  • It can happen for different reasons - youth, inexperience, or a physical hypersensitivity to erotic stimulation.
  • The goal of dealing with this concern is to train the man to focus on the sensations leading up to ejaculation. By doing this he begins to anticipate orgasm and gain control over the timing of his ejaculation.
  • There are two common methods used to treat premature ejaculation. They are the squeeze technique and the stop-start technique. To learn more, visit our web page on premature ejaculation.

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Sex does not feel very good - is something wrong?

  • For some people sex may be painful, frustrating or boring.
  • If you feel this way you're not alone.
  • There are many reasons why sex may not feel good. You may be worried about getting pregnant; having family, job, personal stresses; having difficulty talking to your partner about sex; or having questions about your sexuality.
  • Sex may not feel good due to a medical reason like having an infection. It is important to figure out what the reasons are, finding out what feels good for you and learning ways to make sex more enjoyable for you. Remember sex is more than just intercourse.

For more information visit our web page Does Sex Feel Good for Women?

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What is the G spot?

  • The full name for the "G spot" is the "Grafenberg spot" .
  • The G spot has been described and identified by many different researchers. 2 popular researchers, Masters & Johnson, describe the G spot as an area of deep pressure receptors in the innermost vagina.
  • Other researchers describe the G spot as an area found about 2 inches inside the top vaginal wall that is extremely sensitive to pressure.
  • These researchers believe stimulation of this area may lead to orgasm.
  • Locating and stimulating the G spot can be a source of frustration for many women. It is important to understand that finding the G spot is not the only way to achieve orgasm. It is believed that more women reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris.

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Do women ejaculate?

  • The discussion over whether women ejaculate can be confusing especially if you are not familiar with all the medical names for the female anatomy.
  • There is ongoing research into this question and controversy continues whether women ejaculate during orgasm. However, one group of researchers, Ladas, Whipple & Perry, believe that stimulation of the G spot may lead to orgasm and ejaculation of a liquid through the urethra.
  • This finding has not been widely accepted. It is estimated that between 5% - 40% of women report an ejaculatory release during orgasm.

This information was found in Byer & Shainberg (1991) Dimensions of Human Sexuality and Lichtman & Papera (1990) Gynecology - well-woman care

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