Healthy Relationships

Relationships can develop with a number of people, family members, friends, co-workers, and people you are dating. Healthy relationships can be rewarding and are important to everyone.

Qualities of a healthy relationship:

Everyone has the right to be involved in healthy relationships, and these relationships have a lot of qualities including:

  1. Respect
  2. Honesty
  3. Trust
  4. Doing things together and apart
  5. Intimacy
  6. Assertiveness
  7. Positive self-esteem
  8. Mutual as well as separate goals and interests
  9. Communication in all directions
  10. Equality: No one is the boss
  11. Safety - physical, sexual, and emotional
  12. Acts of kindness, caring and support

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What About Me?

  • You are the most important person in your life.
  • Before you get into a new relationship or even if you are in one, take a few moments and think about yourself.
  • It is important for you to be the best you that you can be.

To be in a healthy relationship you need to feel good about yourself.

  • You have the right to live in a world that is free from danger, risk or injury - a world that feels safe.
  • You are a special person, with many talents and qualities. Believe in yourself and accept yourself for who you are – we all have faults and no one is perfect.
  • Good communication, decision-making skills, and problem solving skills are key to healthy relationships. Take the time to evaluate your skills and feel free to ask for help.
  • You have the right to seek help from a respected, trusted adult if you do not feel safe and supported.

Here are some tips to help you feel good about yourself:

  • Be aware of your strong points - make a list - write down your successes, both large and small.
  • Be assertive, take control of your life, identify areas of your life that you think need changing and do something about it.
  • Have a positive attitude.
  • Feel good and confident about the decisions you make.

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Keeping Relationships Healthy

  • When you have worked to be the best you can be, it is important to hang out with special people:
    • People who never make you feel unsafe or upset by putting you down or hurting you.
    • People who listen to your point of view and respect it, even if they don’t agree with you.
  • Remember that the people you are involved with need to treat you with respect!

Here are some ideas on how to keep your relationships healthy:

  • Talk to the other person about how you feel - tell him/her the good and the bad stuff.
  • Listen to what the other person has to say.
  • Expect some 'up' and 'down' days - But remember the ‘up’ days should outnumber the 'down' days.
  • Talk about ‘down’ days.
  • Take care of yourself… get lots of rest and make healthy eating, physical activity, and time for yourself a part of each day.
  • Keep in touch with your family and friends and make time for them; they are important.
  • Do things that you both enjoy.
  • Talk about sex and respect each other's limits and choices, including saying No.
  • Work on building trust and respect between you and your partner.

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